Thursday, February 21, 2008

Valuing and Appreciating Yourself

You yourself, as much as anybody in the universe deserve your love and affection.

How do you treat yourself? Do you take time to nourish your physical and spiritual needs? If you can answer "yes" to these questions, then I know that you value and appreciate YOU just as you are. So often, however, as women, we spend most of our lives trying to please everyone else, making sure that all of their needs are met before our own. Do you even know what your own needs are? Sometimes it takes a rather drastic wake-up call, such as a personal illness, an injury or an emotional breakdown for us to even allow ourselves the right to do something special that feeds our own soul.

Why is it so hard for some of us to realize that unless we fill our own tanks first, we will not have any energy or internal resources to offer to others? Even on an airplane the message is for the adult to put on her own oxygen mask first before assisting others.
I can't tell you how many times I have heard women tell me that they feel guilty about spending time or money on some personal fitness or downtime activities for themselves. What good are we to others if we don't look after ourselves?

Do you hold yourself to higher standards than you expect from others? Are you your own worst critic? If you had a friend who talked to you like you sometimes talk to yourself, would you continue to hang around that person? Give yourself a break. Get off that pedestal of perfection. We need to stop trying to be the general managers of the Universe and just accept ourselves as part of the human race with all our frailties and imperfections. Adopt the concept of "good enough". Learn to accept yourself just as you are right now in whatever circumstances you might find yourself. Relax and be kind to yourself.

We must begin to value and appreciate ourselves. When we begin to love and accept ourselves, we will start to take better physical care of ourselves, and make sure that we have time to nourish our souls. In addition, the more self appreciation we have, the more we will become aware when others are taking advantage of our good will or are treating us with disrespect. When we truly value ourselves, we will not tolerate any physical or emotional abuse from any other human being, child, spouse, friend or family member. We teach others how to treat us. If we have little respect for ourselves, others will act likewise. When we deny our magnificence, we give others permission to do the same. No one can make you feel inferior without your permission. Making yourself a priority is not a sin! It’s an absolute must if you ever hope to live out your own passion and purpose in life and give back to others.

We cannot be a source of strength unless we nurture our own strength.
M. Scott Peck

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Barb Ashcroft offers Journey to Seminars and private consultation for those who want to think more positively, discover their true passions, and feel fully alive. She may also be booked for professional speaking engagements. Contact Barb 905 814-6434

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The Passion Test Interactive Program

The Passion Test interactive home study program is now available for purchase.

The program comes in a handsome album and includes:

72 Page Passion Test Workbook - 7 Lessons to systematically go through the entire Passion Test process
Video for Each Lesson - 10-20 minute video in which Chris and Janet Attwood provide special guidance for completing each exercise in the Workbook
CD of Chris and Janet's Best Teleclass - In this hour and twenty minute CD they will go through the core principles for living a passionate life, plus demonstrate the process of going through The Passion Test with a volunteer
DVD of Transformational Leadership Council Presentation - You'll receive the video of their presentation of The Passion Test to the Transformational Leadership Council which includes many of the teachers from the movie and book The Secret, including Jack Canfield, Lisa Nichols, John Assaraf, Bill Harris, Marci Shimoff and others. You'll watch them take Lisa Nichols through The Passion Test and see her surprise at what came out at the top of her passions list.

To order this program go to


Saturday, February 2, 2008

Discover Your True Passions Special Sessions for Retiring/Retired Teachers

"Retirement can and will be a glorious time in your life. You'll love the freedom and ability to try new things. It's a new phase of life; a chance to be a beginner again."
Richard Carlson
Statistics on retirement report that the happiest retirees are those who still feel a sense of purpose even after their career is over.
  • Are you anxious to move on to your retirement years?
  • Have you given any thought to what your new purpose will be?
  • Are you in touch with what really makes your heart sing?
  • What dream do you want to start thinking about and creating today?

When you follow your passions you will love your life. Your dreams already exist. They are just waiting for you to find bring them into the world.

  • What truly gives you meaning?
  • In retirement you can truly live out your passions.
  • Do you know what they are?

This seminar will give you an incredibly valuable tool for clarifying what's really important i n your life.

  • If today were your last day to live, what would not be fulfilled in you?


Discover Your True Passions

Cost:$75.00 for a three hour seminar

Location:Central Mississauga

Dates: Saturday mornings 9:30AM-12:30PM (select one)

February 23, March 29, May 10, June 14

To Register: 905 814-6434 or